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For a Pessimist, I am pretty OPTIMISTIC

They say good things must come to an end. As for me, it should but it must not be that fast.

Have you ever been left alone?
Have you ever been stranded?
Have you ever been asked to break up without knowing why?
I DID.

It was some Friday night that me and my friends (Tropang G) was having a get-together. I was cheering for the fact that I really have everything that I wanted: a great family, good friends, a cool boyfriend, a nice job at a call center and everything else. You know the kind of feeling that things are already in your way and that nothing could go wrong.

We were enjoying the happy moments that we had when I was brought to life with a text message. The very message that made me realize that the world can stop anytime. It goes:

“Janice..nung lunes ko pa dapat i2 ssbhin sau..do whatever you want..and go on with ur life..i don’t want to..but i’m gonna break up with you..this should be our destiny,,you said that if destiny comes tayo at tayo prin and mgsasama..now it’s better to separate our lives..paalam na mhiemhie ko..”

That day it felt like my feet was not on the ground anymore. For crying out loud, why? Why does it have to be that fast as if nothing has happened for the past 2 years and 3 months? That message marked the very first reason of my long depression.

People see me these past few days as if nothing has ever happened between Marlon and I. Whenever they are asking me why I still look okay, this is always my answer, “Alam mo ba kung gaano kahirap ang plastikin ang sarili mo? Ang maging masaya kahit gusto mong umiyak. Yung tipong gusto mong sabihin sa buong mundo na napakaunfair nya sayo. Kung pede lang, ginawa ko na matagal na.”

I lost my bestfriend that day.
I lost my heart and so is…
MY LIFE…
for the past two years.

I became depressed. I became sober. Until one day I just found out that I was already terminated at the call center where I was working. I am telling everyone that it was a personal choice for me. He is, as in fact, one of the reasons why I am working. And to my dismay, I just found myself empty-handed after the said termination. With no direction and with nowhere to go. It is true that I found real company with my friends now, the Tropang G. They are trying to pull me up. But then, I refused to take their hands.

Right now, to tell you honestly, I still don’t know as to where I should begin. I am still stranded and broken. Please lend me a helping hand. I could use so much of that now. But then, I should have more sense in my head now for I am turning 20 years old this year yet it doesn’t feel like it.

I will try to take a shot again for a job tomorrow. I just hope things will be better now. I think I should just devout myself to work and not minding anything or anyone else. People always tell me that maybe HE is just giving me opportunities of improving myself as a person. Maybe HE has better plans for me. Maybe HE knows that I can overcome these trials and that after this I will be emerging to the best person that I can be. I know that HE will never let me down.

To tell you frankly, it will really be hard to recover from this heartache. I am not saying it’s going to be easy. It’s going to be the toughest one I have ever encountered. But I stand by what I’ve said earlier. I should take this as an opportunity for me to emerge to a different, improved and to be the best person that I can ever be. I should be more optimistic and more purpose-driven. For as the saying always goes, “There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel.”

Top 45 Things A Girl Loves

1-touch her waist
2-talk to her
3-share secrets
4-give her your jacket
5-kiss her slowly

are you remembering this?

6-hug her
7-hold her
8-laugh with her
9-invite her somewhere
10-let her be with you when you’re with
your friends

keep reading

11-smile with her
12-take pics with her
13-pull her onto your lap
14-when she says she loves you more,
deny it. fight back.
15-when her friends say i love her more
than you, deny it. fight back and hug
her tight so she cant get to her
friends. it makes her feel loved.

Are you thinking about someone?

16-always hug her and say i love you
when you see her.
17-kiss her unexpectedly.
18-***HUG HER FROM BEHIND AROUND THE
WAIST!!!***
19-tell her shes beautiful not sexy!
20-tell her the way you feel about her!

u need to show her you mean it too

21-kiss her on the lips
22-DON’T ask her to buy you stuff. you
buy HER stuff
23-TELL HER WHAT FEELS GOOD
24-make her feel loved
25-buy her stuff. small things can
still
help

makes her feel special.

26-DON’T LIE TO HER.
27-DON’T CHEAT ON HER.
28-take her anywhere she wants
29-txt messege or call her in the
morning and tell her have a good day at
school, and how much you miss her
30-be there for her when ever she needs
you, & even when she doesn’t need you,
just be there so she’ll know that she
can always count on you

are you still reading this u better be
its important

31-Hold her close when she’s cold and
she can hold you too.
32-When you are alone hold her close
and
kiss her.
33-Kiss her on the tip of her nose; (it
will give her the hint that you want to
kiss them).
34-While in the movie, put your arm
around her and then she will
automatically put her head on your
shoulder, then lean in and tilt her
chin
up and kiss her lightly.
35-Dont ever tell her to leave even
jokingly or act like you’re mad. If
shes
upset, comfort her

remember this next time you are with
her

36-When people diss her, stand up for
her.
37-Look deep into her eyes and tell her
you love her.
38-Lay down under the stars and put her
head on your chest so she can listen to
the steady beat of your heart, Link
your
fingers together while you whisper to
her as she rests her eyes and listens
to you.
39-When walking next to each other grab
her hand.
40-When you hug her hold her in your
arms as long as possible

41-Call her at night to wish her sweet
dreams.
42-Comfort her when she cries and wipe
away her tears.
43-Take her for long walks at night
44-Dedicate a song to her.
45-Always Remind her how much you love
her.

youll never know when she needs just a
lil more love.

a qOuTe

It is ok to disagree with people regarding certain issues. You’re not being true to yourself if you succumb to others opinions because you feel guilty.

aN opEn LeTTer

I just wanted to reach out to all of you and explain some of the things that I have been faced with recently.

It’s so funny how many stories are put out there about people. It’s like we all want our side of the story out there as well, but at the end of the day only a few people care to hear what is really going on since the bad is always so much more interesting than the truth. I don’t know why, but this is so weird to me. I used to be angry at the tabloids for printing horrible things about me, but now I try to just be numb to what I see. I saw Tyra Banks once get really upset and cry on her show because they made her look fat. We all want a certain image of ourselves out there, and at some point we all do really care what other people think or we wouldn’t be here.

Recently, I was sent to a very humbling place called rehab. I truly hit rock bottom. Till this day I don’t think that it was alcohol or depression. I was like a bad kid running around with ADD. I had a manager from a long time ago come in and try to direct me and my life after I got my divorce. I was so overwhelmed I think that I was in a little shock too. I didn’t know who to go to. I realized how much energy and love I had put into my past relationship when it was gone because I genuinely did not know what to do with myself, and it made me so sad. I confess, I was so lost.

This letter is to not place blame on anyone, although I do see the world with a completely different set of eyes now. Being in that vulnerable state and taken to dinners and parties with friends and finding out later you paid for everything was a huge learning lesson for me. I think the whole problem was letting too many people into my life. You never know another persons intentions or what another person wants. I feel I was too open and looking for answers when I had it all to begin with. I have had to cut so many people out of my life. It is so sad, because if anyone is a family  person…it is me. When I was little I remember every  night watching movies with my family and feeling so at  peace. Dancing and singing all the time just like a  little girl should. Now recently I find with my children that I want them to have that feeling all of the time. I am having to face a lot of things right now since I have children of my own. A lot of insecurities from when I was little are coming up again. It is like we are never good enough.

I know everyone thinks that I am playing the victim, but I am not and I hate what is going on right now so much. Maybe this is the reason for this letter…to maybe allow people to look at me differently. It is like when you are a real woman and say what you feel and how you think things are supposed to be, that people just say you are a "bitch."

I feel like some of the people in my life made more of some issues than was necessary. I also feel like they knew I was beginning to use my brain for a change and cut some ties, so they wanted to be in more control of my life than me. I think it is actually normal for a young girl to go out after a huge divorce. I think it was a bigger issue because I had not gone out in such a long time. I am 25 and I do still have a lot to learn, and I am going to make mistakes everyday, and I am sure every mistake I make will probably be on CNN or Good Morning America. I am only human people and I love you for still loving me.

I am sitting here at home and it is 6:25 and both of my sons are asleep. I am truly blessed to have them in my life. Everyday is so surreal. Life in general is so surreal and crazy.

I just hope this letter made some of you think a little bit more of me and where I am coming from. I just want the same things in life that you want…and that is to be happy. It is just so weird because everyone has their own perception of me and how they think I really am. It is so weird how stories are told. There is your side, my side, and the truth. Somebody has to figure it out. I guess we will never really understand or figure out life completely. That’s God’s job. I can’t wait to meet him…or her.

<3

Once upon a time, something happened to me… It was the sweetest thing that could ever be… A fantasy, a dream come true. It was the day that I MET YOU. . .

Lets Commit The Perfect Crime. I’ll Steal Your Heart & You’ll Steal Mine…

One way to see if the person you love really loves you, is when you give him the taste of hell, and yet he still feels like he’s in heaven with you.

Only his love can break the darkness of my heart. He is the only one who can tear down the walls around my heart.

" I wanna be the girl he’s scared to lose, the one where he can’t walk away from knowing she is mad at him, the one who can’t fall asleep without her voice being the last one he hears. The One He Can’t Live Without."

why?!

Why can’t i be pretty?
why can’t i be cool?
I’m always teased about my ways
that I live and believe.
They call me emo and they
call me dumb. But i am not dumb.
Why does no one support me
in anything i do? And why can’t
I hold on to the people i love.
I guess i would be better above.
So i cut my wrists till i can’t no
more and write that suicide note.
Why doesn’t anyone care? Why
doesn’t anyone love me? Now
I am taking my last breath of life
and I whisper…. WHY????

5 Basic Misconceptions About EMO

1.) Emo DOES NOT stand for emotional.

2.) A person can not be emo, as its physically impossible for one to be Emotive Hardcore.

3.) EMO IS NOT A FASHION.

4.) Emo did not evolve to what it is confused with today, but rather the term [emo] was completely bastardized and raped of its original and true meaning by the mainstream music industry.

5.) Emo IS NOT DEAD… Emo still lives on today in the form of Emotive Hardcore and todays current Screamo bands.

5 Basic Facts About EMO

1.) Emo stands for ‘Emotive Hardcore.’

2.) Emo would prove to be the main influence to the genre screamo.

3.) Original Emo is a thing of the past… died out in the early 90’s, giving rise to the post emo, screamo, and modern emo (hardcore emo).

4.) Hailing from the D.C. area emo came to be in the summer of ‘84.

5.) The founding artists of the emo genre include bands such as The Rites Of Spring and Husker Du.

emO wreCk

I’m drifting away
Trying to find reality;
Screaming for help,
But no one cares about me.

I’m an emotional wreck,
Screwed up inside,
Can’t seem to tell
What’s wrong or right.

Burning up
And fading out,
Hold everything inside,
But shouting out.

Northing’s right,
Every thing’s wrong,
I’ve felt like this
For far too long.

Can’t believe this is happening,
Why won’t things go right?
Where’s the end of the tunnel
With the bright white light?

I want to leave,
But somethings begging me to stay,
I should just go,
And not listen to what I say.

I’m an emotional wreck,
Screwed up inside,
Can’t seem to tell
What’s wrong or right.

is this who i really am?

Days go by where I don’t feel a thing,
then other days that go by where I feel so much pain,
I feel like I cant escape it,
like its eating away at me,keeping these thoughts inside,
every sec its killing a part of me,
until there’s nothing left of me,
but a hollowed out human body,
siting so quiet,so sound,that you bair to glance at me,you see nothing in my eyes,
no emotion,no thought,
no feel for whats going on,
my life,
standing still,
Look at me and tell me what you see,
what do you really see in these light blue eyes??
are these thoughts?,or are they something else,are my words hidden,or twisted some how,to a point where what I say seems so much more serious then what it is,
do you believe me when I say I am OK",
if I look in your eyes will you see the truth,that I am not lieing to you,
how much longer can this go on?
knowing when I tell someone the truth,and they don’t believe,
its soo damn frustrating,soo much you don’t understand,
my mind is made up,no one will understand this true mind,
the way it thinks,the way it tells the trueth in such a way that its no longer the truth,
Have I failed as a person?
are my eyes so fake that you no longer can see the truth,
is my dear touch so unfelt,that you no longer can feel me around you,
that I am only a memory or soul,
wondering this world,with no plan,nor thought,is this who I am??,….